If I should die before I wake, I have a few requests. As my good friend Kellie likes to tell me...I'm a bit of an overachiever. So, since I will not be here to follow up and make sure these things are done, I am going to list them here. You know, just in case. That way, if you have any questions, you can get them answered ahead of time. ;)
Yes, this may seem morbid, but, when you are have Chronic Lyme Disease...a heart attack, an intestinal perforation, swelling of the brain or other bad luck medical stuff could occur any time. Or you could get hit by a bus. Either way, it is good to be prepared. So...AHEM...
If I should die before I wake...
* Please help my children through their loss. I cannot imagine life without my mother, especially at such a young age.
* Do not allow the coroner to put anything other than Chronic Lyme Disease as a cause of death. The final 'straw' (heart attack, meningitis, etc.) could be listed as a sub-cause, but Lyme Disease must be on there. PERIOD.
* Make sure people laugh at my funeral. I don't want people sobbing and carrying on. Crack some jokes or something. Try to remember the good times and the funny, stupid things I did. And be sure there is a lot of good food, especially cake. I love cake. Chocolate, though. None of that vanilla crap.
* Do not let your children be raised without a parent. Do your homework on Lyme Disease. Check yourself and your children every time you come indoors. Make your voice heard and get legislation changed so that Lyme patients get proper treatment and research is done to prevent death from complications from Lyme.
* Make sure my children are properly treated for Lyme. Do not allow uneducated doctors to lay one hand on them. Please make sure they get the best care, so that they can live a good life... healthy, happy and free from pain, needles and debilitating fatigue.
* Please help my husband. He will need it. Suddenly becoming a single parent with two small children can be overwhelming enough. But on top of it, he will take on a ton of new roles: bill-payer, doctor's-appointment-scheduler, family photographer, memory-keeper, menu planner, head chef, family taxi driver, travel planner, coupon-clipper, birthday-card-writer, grocery-shopper, homework-helper and boo-boo soother. Please make sure he gets a night off now and then so that he can restore...and drink a lot of beer. On second thought, he may need a designated driver too.
*Somebody set my hubby up on a date or two. And make sure they don't have any crappy diseases first. He's had enough of that for one lifetime.
* Please make sure my children learn yoga and meditation. It is hands down the most important thing I've learned to help keep the body healthy and the mind clear. It saves people...physically and emotionally.
* Somebody introduce my kids to The Beatles and Jazz music...and not that lollipop stuff, either. I mean Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald and so on.
* Do not let my children become lethargic video-game-playing, TV-watching, fast-food-eating couch potatoes. Get them outdoors, into martial arts classes, into art camps and doing something fun (and educational...or at least where they can use their imagination) every day. I am not a TV Nazi or anything. I love TV. Just don't let them live in front of it.
* Please teach my children love and acceptance. Let them know that we are all equal and deserve respect...regardless of color, race, gender or sexual preference. If I was here, I would not allow my children to grow up to be uneducated, bigoted, disrespectful people who care only about themselves...and as my closest family and friends, I expect you to do your best to ensure this does not happen.
* Please send my parents some love because I cannot think of anything worse than losing a child. And my wonderful sister, too, because for 36 years she has had one awesome sister. ;) Luckily, she has a lot of other 'sisters' to help her through. I could not have been born into a better family. They mean everything to me.
* Tell those you care about that you love them...every day. You never know how long you will have with them in this life. Cherish every moment.
* Do not allow regrets in your life. Let the past be in the past. Don't worry about the future. We all make mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Live in the present moment and make every minute count.
* To my family and friends, know that I love you and appreciate you more than I can say.
That's it! I feel much better. If something terrible happens, at least I know my family is in good hands because we have some of the best family and friends around. Thank you for all of the love and support!
(A Special Note to My Loving Mother: No, I am not depressed. Yes, I am thinking positive. You know how I am...I'm a planner and I always have to put in my two cents. Please stop worrying. Love you!)
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